Friday, February 26, 2010
11:37 AM
Essential Male Friends
This is really quite interesting! I found this by chance online and I thought I'd post it up. For girls, this will be good for you to know! :)
A guide to which guys you need in your life. Girls, read up and learn.
It is important to have a variety of friends throughout our lives, especially ones which we know we can go to when we need a pick-me-up, some advice or common sense, someone to hang out with and keep us company or to have a good old flirt with.
Many women have their girlfriends as their confidents and close advisors, but some guys are just as good at dishing out the advice and compliments when we need them. Despite being let down some of the time by many of their fellow male comrades, there are some guys that can make us feel great.
1. The adventurer
This is probably a guy that you could have met on a holiday or have known from school or college. In your mind, he is the memory maker. He is someone that exudes fun and when you are around him, you know you will never be bored. He has a plethora of fun ideas up his sleeves to keep everyone entertained.
He will no doubt, push you out of your comfort zone, but you will afterwards appreciate it and learn that there is always time from wild exploits. This isn’t a guy that you will be able to turn down as he is always on the move and needs his space.
2. The platonic friend with no sexual tension
While you are obviously aware he is of the opposite sex, there is no chance of you jumping in to bed with him. Here’s hoping he feels the same way about you. If this is the case, then this is a measure of testosterone so straightforward and loyal, that nothing (apart from maybe a new girlfriend) will blemish it.
Most importantly, this male friend can strip away man-talk and give you the reality in bite-sized nuggets of so-called male wisdom. Without a whisper of an ulterior motive. He’s like a brother from another mother and a guy that you can jump into bed and watch a film knowing that there won’t be any wandering hands.
3. The platonic friend with sexual tensionYou have wild fantasies about this guy and while you love to think about them, it is not something that you would act on. And that is a good thing as there is a valid reason why the two of you haven’t reached ‘that point of no return’. You know at the end of the day, that it isn’t a great idea and one that will ruin a perfectly good and fun friendship.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t fit in some thinly veiled compliments and revel in delight in his faux-jealousy when you complain about jerks. It’s like a cheap (but oh so yummy) fast food burger. Harmless in small doses.
4. The charmerFlirting with someone, or having someone flirt with you is an instant pick-me-up and therefore, it is essential to have a male friend that is a smooth talker and charmer. We all have our off days and knowing that we have someone in our address book that gives out flirtatious and positive comments like nobody’s business, is great to have around.
A little harmless flirting never hurts anyone, especially when you know it isn’t going anywhere and it's just a bit of fun to have.
5. Valued friendThere are some guys that we meet and know are going to be great friends for a long time. So many people come in and out of our lives and it is sometimes hard to keep in touch with everyone. However, this person is someone who has added value to your life. He is the man with good values, virtues, upbringing, disciplined and focus.
They are the type of men that make you realise your dreams in a positive way without soiling your hands or delving into immorality and evil lifestyle and reaffirm your faith that there are good men out there that you can date... but not this one. He is there as a friend and advisor.
6. The totally honest guyThe thing is, with girls, they don’t always tell each other the whole honest truth when it comes to opinions on what they are wearing, other girls and of course, men. Girls, can of course, be a bit catty amongst one another and rivalry can be high, even with close friends. On the other hand, they can be tactful among one another so as not to hurt one another’s opinions: “that’s not weight you have put on, it’s just a bit of water retention.”
A guy can tell us straight without making us feel so offended. They are simple creatures and tell things how they are and how they see them, like: “Hmm, you’re looking a bit frumpy today” or “you know the guy you are dating is a .......” It’s not always what we want to hear, but a male friend like this is honest and straight to the point. No beating around the bush.
He is also your gateway to how men think, but more importantly, how men see you; both of which are extremely useful sources of information to get your hands on.
7. The gay friendThis one is so clear it borders on cliché. What are we saying? It is a cliché, but dry spells and gay friends go together like champagne and strawberries. Nobody is better to have a good b*tch session with and lament the evils of men while watching reruns of 'Sex and the City'.
Gay guys are still guys, too. Same state of mind, just a mixture of girls-in-hot-tub and muscle-boys-on-sports-field. You get the idea, and thankfully, that aggression will never be directed toward you and you get the best of both worlds.
